If Respect Were Truly a Default, No Amount of Bias Would Have a Say
Edition 29: Respect Isn’t Conditional—It’s a Default Setting We Keep Turning Off
Edition #029
My mission with this newsletter is simple but ambitious: to help 100,000 professionals shift from being People Pleasers to becoming Culture Builders.
In the last edition, we talked about humanising the hiring process. But hiring is just the start, what follows is retention and growth. And at the core of both lies one simple, often overlooked principle: practising respect as a default setting.
When respect is the default, so many workplace issues vanish before they even appear. The result? Happier teams, fewer conflicts, and greater productivity.
Respect isn’t a “nice-to-have” soft skill. It’s a chain reaction: flowing from home → society → the workplace.
It’s not a policy you put in a handbook. It’s a habit you carry, long before your first day on the job.
In this edition, we’ll break down the often overcomplicated concept of Respect and explore how to make it simple, natural, and non-negotiable.
Respect: The Behaviour That Starts at Home and Shapes the World Around Us
Respect is often described as a value, a virtue, or even a soft skill. But at its core, respect is neither abstract nor optional, it is a practical behaviour. It is the conscious act of recognising the inherent worth of another person and treating them accordingly. This behaviour, however, is not formed by reading a definition in a textbook. It starts early, often without us realising in the most intimate environment we know: our homes. From there, it extends to how we interact with strangers in public spaces and eventually defines how we operate in our workplaces.
The First Classroom: Home
Home is where respect is either nurtured or neglected. Children don’t learn respect by being told to “be respectful”; they learn by watching it in action. A child who sees adults in the family listening attentively to each other’s viewpoints, saying “please” and “thank you” sincerely, and treating domestic staff with dignity absorbs these behaviours as the default way to interact with people.
Conversely, if a child grows up hearing condescending tones towards service workers, witnessing constant interruptions in conversations, or seeing others dismissed because they are “too young” to understand, they carry those habits forward.
Respect at home also includes how boundaries are honoured, knocking before entering a room, allowing privacy, and listening without judgment. These seemingly small behaviours become the foundation for how the child perceives the rights and dignity of others in the wider world.
From Home to Society: Civic Sense as Respect in Action
When respect is instilled early, it naturally extends beyond family walls. Civic sense: the unwritten code of courteous public behaviour is essentially respect applied to strangers and shared spaces. It is what prompts someone to stand in a queue without cutting, give up a seat for someone in need, drive without honking aggressively, or dispose of waste properly.
Unfortunately, the opposite is also true. If respect is only selectively practised at home, people often carry that inconsistency into public life. The result is impatience in traffic, disregard for public cleanliness, and indifference to rules meant for collective safety.
In societies where respect is embedded in everyday interactions, civic life tends to be more harmonious because individuals understand that their actions, good or bad, impact others.
From Civic Behaviour to Workplace Culture
Workplaces are microcosms of society. The level of respect employees bring with them is a direct extension of how they have been conditioned at home and in civic life.
A person accustomed to interrupting others in conversation will likely do so in meetings. Someone who ignores civic rules may also be inclined to disregard company protocols.
In the professional world, respect takes on layered dimensions it’s not only about courtesy but also about recognising expertise, acknowledging contributions, respecting deadlines, and embracing diversity.
Respect at work means giving colleagues space to voice differing opinions without fear of ridicule, understanding cultural sensitivities, and treating everyone from the CEO to the cleaning staff with equal dignity.
Organisations that thrive often have leaders who model respectful behaviour consistently. When respect is present, collaboration improves, conflicts are handled constructively, and employees feel safe to contribute ideas. Without it, talent disengages, creativity suffers, and workplace culture deteriorates.
Simplifying a Complex Idea
Respect is not a simple concept because it has layers:
It’s subjective – what feels respectful to one person may feel disrespectful to another.
It’s situational – respect in a workplace, a friendship, or a marriage can look very different.
It’s reciprocal – people expect it both ways, but not everyone gives it equally.
It’s influenced by upbringing and culture – we carry different definitions of respect from our families, schools, and communities.
It’s tied to emotions – ego, pride, and insecurity can distort how we see or give respect.
How to simplify respect:
See the person, not the role – value them as a human being, not just their position, title, or income.
Use the golden rule – treat them how they want to be treated, not just how you would.
Acknowledge and listen – even if you disagree, let them feel heard.
Hold boundaries – respect also means saying no when needed.
Be consistent – don’t respect only when it’s convenient. Respect at all times.
Respect can seem like a nuanced, multi-layered concept because it is expressed differently in various cultures, relationships, and situations. But the one-line principle that works universally is this:
Respect should not be something people have to earn—it should be offered to everyone, without the need to prove their worth. It means recognising the inherent value of every person and treating them as human first, free from labels or conditions.
When taught and practised from a young age, this principle becomes second nature. It guides how we treat our parents, friends, strangers, colleagues, and even people we may never meet again.
The Ripple Effect
Respect is not an isolated virtue, it is the root of many other positive behaviours. It fosters empathy, patience, and fairness. It reduces unnecessary conflict.
Most importantly, it creates a chain reaction: when we treat others with respect, they are more likely to do the same, creating stronger communities and healthier workplaces.
In essence, respect is not something we “switch on” in formal settings; it is a lifelong habit. It starts with how we speak at the dinner table, shows up in how we behave at a traffic signal, and determines how we lead or follow in our workplaces.
If we want a world where respect is the norm, we must first model it at home, because that is where every ripple begins.
Respect at Workplaces: Be.artsy Case Study
Why Respect Trainings Are Non-Negotiable in Today’s Workplaces
At Be.artsy, we have been designing learning and development programs that place Respect at the core. While respect is often treated as an implied value, the reality is that in today’s workplace climate, it needs to be addressed explicitly and deliberately.
In the race to achieve targets and outpace competition, many professionals are unconsciously sacrificing meaningful connections, empathy, and basic civil behaviour.
In fast-paced, high-pressure environments, these gaps don’t just harm relationships they erode trust, collaboration, and psychological safety. That’s why standalone Respect Trainings are no longer optional; they are critical.
Be.artsy Respect Trainings Includes:
Behavioural Specificity: Define what respectful and disrespectful behaviours look like in your workplace.
Scenario-Based Learning: Use real workplace situations to demonstrate respectful conflict resolution, inclusive language, and feedback delivery.
Integrate with Leadership Development: Respect is modeled from the top. Leaders must receive advanced respect training to set the tone.
Cultural Intelligence (CQ) Modules: Equip employees to adapt communication and collaboration styles to different cultural norms.
Measurement & Reinforcement: Regular pulse surveys, peer feedback, and recognition programs reinforce respectful behaviours long after training day.
Micro-Learning Formats: Offer bite-sized video, perfect to be uploaded on LMS, or interactive modules to keep respect top of mind throughout the year.
In today’s competitive market, results without respect come at too high a cost. Organisations that invest in respect training not only protect their culture but also gain a clear business advantage higher productivity, stronger collaboration, and a workplace where people want to stay and contribute their best.
Best | Shikha Mittal | Founder, Be.artsy
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